“Whether you think you can or think you can't—you are right.”—Henry Ford
We live in an image-laden society where sex sells. We live in a society where our looks grant us special privileges in certain aspects of life and open doors that are often off-limits for most.
We’re hyper-aware of our aesthetics and over-analyze the smallest of our perceived flaws. We at times, obsessively measure ourselves against the next human being beside us.
From billboards to magazines to Instagram models with little clothing flexing while quoting Ralph Waldo Emerson (weird) or Rumi (not motivating)—sex and fitness are spamming us everywhere.
Everyone wants to lose weight. Everyone wants to improve their physique for a myriad of reasons: more sex, more confidence, better quality of life, and the list goes on and on.
Think I’m over exaggerating about our obsession with weight loss?
While our society is becoming more and more obsessed with sex and status—we’re collectively becoming unhealthier. Despite the plethora of information within our grasps, obesity is at an all-time high and most people aren’t even living a basic healthy lifestyle.
Most Americans are highly conscious of their weight and I’m willing to bet that most of the world is becoming increasingly aware of their weight.
Despite this awareness, our society is failing at weight loss. In a recent poll, 51 percent of Americans stated a desire to lose weight, yet only 26 percent say they’re making a serious effort to lose those pounds.
At face value, it’s easy to just say that the remaining 25 percent are just lazy and need to get their ass in the gym and start eating less and moving more.
However, we’re better than that nonsensical gibberish that most narrow-minded experts and gurus preach from their pulpits.
I’m willing to bet that the entire 51 percent makes an effort initially. But the failing 25 percent goes off course following the wrong advice and loses motivation by starting their weight loss journey with the wrong weight loss mindset.
Maybe the 25 percent failed because all of their hopes were placed on supplements, diet pills, magical fitness fairy dust, and other quick fixes that eventually fizzles out. After all, this isn’t too feasible of a belief to explore since the supplement industry is currently producing revenue at 32 billion and by 2021 is projected to be 60 billion.
These are all huge potential deterrents, but one of the biggest points for men and women’s weight loss shortcomings is their expectations. Most people quit due to their initial expectations not being met and the unrealistic timeliness they place on their transformations.
Weight loss doesn’t have to be a process where suffering is mandatory. If you’re tired of stressing over losing weight, remember these nine truths to develop an unstoppable weight loss mindset.
1.There will be some initial self-doubt (and that’s okay)
Every time we branch outside of our comfort zones, there’s going to be a fear of the unknown.
Yet, within this muddle of uncertainty, you must persist and move forward. Persistence in the wake of doubt and questioning of your abilities is common at the beginning. This uncertainty is common due to past fitness setbacks, lack of skill, or a lack of self-confidence.
There isn’t anything wrong with you just because you’re a little uneasy or anxious about the goals ahead—you’re human and it’s natural to feel this general uneasiness.
Wanting to lose fat or tackling any fitness goal is daunting. Stating an intent to lose 20 lbs or making the habit of exercising a consistent routine activity isn’t easy from the surface level.
2.Commitment is essential
State your intent and jump into the water with both feet. No dipping your toe in to test the waters. You’re either in or you’re out.
There isn’t a halfway. The elevator only goes up or goes down (there isn’t a sideways).
Commitment is doing the work regardless of how you feel.
Stating what you want isn’t enough. Talking and doing are two different things and needs to be separated.
A commitment entails doing the work regardless of how long it’ll take to accomplish your specific fitness objective. A commitment requires unwavering support to the craft and daily 1% improvement in life and fitness.
3.There are no shortcuts
Nothing and I mean nothing valuable and worthwhile in the long-term can be accomplished or gained through shortcuts and taking the easy option.
Going for the girl or guy who provides no resistances and has no morals instead of the girl or guy who plays hard to get and has standards leads to agony.
Short-term solutions provide instant gratification and places band-aids over deep wounds, but doesn’t solve long-term problems nor develop long-term healthy habits.
Opting for that cleanse or cheaply formulated diet may accomplish weight loss in the short-term, but in the long term provides an illusionary effect. Yes, you have weight loss for now, but long term, that weight is going to come back with a vengeance along with a worsening metabolism for a side order.
4.Perfectionism is a fairy tale
Perfectionism is often procrastination in disguise. A perfectionist mindset prevents you from having the chance of accomplishing your fitness goal.
Seeking perfection only allows you to delay taking action due to you telling yourself that you need more planning and knowledge before starting your fitness journey.
More knowledge, more tactics, and any other informational avenue isn’t your solution to accomplishing your weight loss goals. To get closer to your weight loss goals and living a rich and fulfilling lifestyle requires you to take action (like right now!).
No more waiting and planning, just do and assess, then go from there.
5.Have realistic expectations of yourself and your current situation
Let go of the comparison game and living vicariously through others fitness. Is it really motivating to watch numerous Instagram post of some insanely fit person posing with their magical weight reducing tea?
Are you motivated after watching numerous videos of someone posing in a perfectly lit room and sharing a quote telling you to believe in yourself and it’ll happen?
I’m betting if you do some soul searching, then odds are it’ll be more of a deterrent than an added benefit to your fitness journey.
The problem lies when you compare yourself to people who don’t share your specific circumstances and don’t have the specific obstacles that you have.
Make goals that suit your particular lifestyle and situation, not anyone else’s.
If you can only commit to three gym sessions a week, so be it, that’s plenty. Don’t force yourself into a fitness plan and set goals based on what others tell you and expect.
Accomplishing your goal in 16 weeks is great. 20 weeks is just as good. The main point is to accomplish this in a sustainable manner that has your long-term health in mind, not just superficial metrics.
6.Progress isn’t linear
The first three weeks, your weight is doing the electric slide off your body with ease. You’re flying high and feeling good, then around week four, your weight hasn’t decreased.
This is the typical cycle of someone starting a weight loss regimen. The first few weeks depending on your starting weight and conditioning levels, weight will fly off your body due to water weight, glycogen storage, and the initial shock of your system.
Progress will naturally slow and that’s normal. It’s not natural for someone to lose four—five lbs each week throughout their journey.
It’s also normal to go weeks without weight coming off and then the week after, you lose a couple of pounds. Weight loss doesn’t operate on a linear straight line, think of weight loss as operating more on a roller coaster.
7.Expect some turbulence (and embrace it)
If you didn’t experience any resistances toward version 2.0 of yourself, then what fun would that be?
While in the heat of the moment, your obstacles and setbacks won’t be fun. However, after reflecting on it, you’ll come to understand that those moments of seeming drudgery are what develops your character.
Those moments are what develops your badassery and make you remarkable.
Most people think success is one straight line of good times up the mountain, but it’s actually an ugly wiggly line that requires you to hold on for dear life at times and just survive.
Sometimes you’re going to run into thunderstorms and there isn’t anything you can do about those moments. But remember, just as thunderstorms don’t last forever, those dark cloudy moments will pass through and give way to more sunny and prosperous moments.
It’s only a failure if you decide to quit and wave your little white flag.
8.You’ll need to call for help at some point
Bill Withers famously stated that we all need somebody to lean on, and boy is he correct on that.
For the majority of the past year, I had to lean on quite a few people and if it wasn’t for them—this article wouldn’t be written nor would this blog still be around.
Life is tough and frustrating at times. Sometimes we don’t have all the answers, capabilities, capacity, or strength to handle everything that is thrown our way.
None of us is superman (and even he needs help). It takes vulnerability, but true courage is raising your hand or making that call for help and support.
Never feel ashamed to ask for help or reach out for support. It’s tough to juggle fitness with all the other movable pieces going on within our lives.
9.You’re ultimately in control of your end destination
At the end of the day, your actions will propel you to success and the goals you desire or lead you to a land of disappointment and endless dieting (don’t do this, stop that here).
You are the captain of this here ship and that is your life. You control which direction it sails and determine what you let on board (people, environments, and other lifestyle factors).
Many can teach you and tell you about the path to where you desire, but only you can choose to take that path and do the right actions.
Lastly, here’s a free download of the weight loss mindset to remind yourself in case you start being too hard on yourself.