The Fitness 10/10/10 Rule: How this Quick and Easy Process Can Help You Make Better Decisions

The Fitness 10:10:10 Rule: How this Quick and Easy Process Can Help You Make Better Decisions
A long time ago in a galaxy far, far away, there was a guy named Julian who was thoughtful, smart, kind, and nerdy with a dry sense of humor and a curious spirit.
 
He had a crush on this girl and one day he finally meets her in person, but he knows that he needs to muster up the courage to ask this woman he likes out for a date.
 
The thing is, Julian is shy and isn’t one to be bold. But he understands the social dynamics of how man and woman operate.
 
Yet, Julian struggles with being vulnerable—something that many other people do as well. 
 
We’re scared to show our true selves. It’s hard to put yourself out there and risk the heartache, disappointment, and other associated feelings that stem from putting yourself out there for the world to reject or accept.
 
It’s hard to ask for what we want due to the possible scenarios of what can happen.
 
For example, let’s take a look at some of the potential scenarios about my predicament above. In a flash of five minutes, I have many scenarios that have sprouted up in my head with a multitude of options such as:
  • What if I mess up with asking her out and it sounds weak, wimpy, and awkward
  • What if she says no—damn this can get awkward…real fast
  • What if she says no because I’m not good enough, smart enough, handsome enough, or any other ‘enough’ you want to add
  • What if she says yes out of guilt or even worse…out of pity
  • What if she says yes because she’s lonely and I’m just the rebound guy from her last breakup or a temporary replacement until her main attraction comes back around
The more thought of these negative scenarios, the more I feel the pain of rejection before anything has even happened. The more thought about these situations and scenarios, the more I’m psyching myself out before attempting to do anything.
 
The currency required to ask her out is too steep for me (or should I say my ego).
 
There are a gazillion negative scenarios and only one positive outcome of where she says yes. Is this worth the potential rejection, awkwardness, and other associated feelings circulating inside my head?

What should I do?

The majority of people who I would ask for an opinion would tell me to do it.
 
“Take the leap.” “Embrace uncertainty.” “Dive into the unknown and mysteries of life.” “Kick fear in its ASS.” “YOLO.”
 
And whatever other motivational slang terms that people use these days.
 
It’s crystal clear what needs to happen when you’re giving advice 40,000 feet above ground zero where all the action is taking place.
 
This is a phenomenon that occurs in all facets of life.
 
It shows up in the book critic or the person who leaves nasty reviews on articles while they’ve never written a page nor have any clue about the craft. Or the girlfriend who dishes out love advice to her friends about relationships, yet she hasn’t had one successful relationship.
 
And lastly, the fitness expert who isn’t in shape themselves nor has ever been.
 
When the tables turn, only a small fraction of those people dishing out the advice will do what they tell someone else to do.
 
We have unlimited amounts of courage for others, but unlimited amounts of fear of the potential consequences for ourselves
 
Here are some other scenarios in case my current dilemma isn’t doing it for you:
  • Asking your boss for a raise
  • Starting an exercise regimen when you don’t know what you’re doing
  • Sharing your art with the world
  • Breaking up with a lover who isn’t serving your best interest
  • Finding new friends in a new city

The case doesn’t matter, being vulnerable scares the heebie-jeebies (shout-out to Boy Meets World) out of us.

After enough negative scenarios, we keep to ourselves, clam up, and don’t take the risk at all. It goes to the grave with us, just like many of the world’s dreams and potentials.
 
This is how dreams die, magical romances never become what they could, and how people stay unhealthy, unhappy and mediocre in all facets of their lives.
 
If we dish out advice on being brave to others, how can we channel this bravery for ourselves? How can we propel ourselves into action and make better decisions?

The 10/10/10 rule to make better decisions

It’s easy to lose perspective when faced with a pressurized situation. There’s emotion involved and this blinds us from making the logical decision.
 
We’ll agonize and change our minds over and over. Worst of all, when emotionally compromised, this leads to over-emphasizing the short-term and losing interest of what’s best in the long term.
 
Think about some of the worst decisions you made in life and when they happened. Odds are, you had emotions of anger, lust, greed, anxiety, jealousy, and short term filled emotions in the heat of the moment, which clouded your judgment and ability to make better decisions.
 
But we don’t have to be slaves to our emotions.
 
This is why the 10/10/10 rule invented by Suzy Welch is your best friend to making better decisions in life and fitness.
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This rule that she created consists of 3 questions:
  1. How will you feel about it (the decision) 10 minutes from now?
  2. How about 10 months from now?
  3. How about 10 years from now?

Let’s get back to our story

I’m going to ask her out on a date.
 
Using the 3 question system, this is how the scenario would look as I’m prepping to ask her out.
 
1. In 10 minutes, how do I feel about this decision? Most likely, I’m going to feel a little embarrassed and worried about her saying “no”. But in the grand scheme, I’m going to feel good about myself because I removed any potential “what ifs” and regrets.
 
On the contrary, if she says “yes”, then I’m going to feel good about the decision to ask her out. Not only am I overcoming an emotional hangup, but I’m also learning to act in spite of fear and I also have a date with a girl I like.
 
2. In 10 months, how will I feel about this decision? Most likely, I’m going to forget about it or will only remember it when it’s brought up. But, I could have a girlfriend or an even deeper friendship.
 
3. In 10 years, how will I feel about the decision? Definitely, have forgotten about it. If she didn’t work out, I most likely have met another wonderful and pretty woman. But again, I could have met my dream woman and been with her for 10 years now.

With this scenario, are the risks still greater than my payoff?

Absolutely not.
 
There’s a chance for a rich and fulfilling relationship along with opportunities to grow as an individual. As with most things in life, when we’re deliberating about whether to do it or not, we overvalue the current moment in time and undervalue the long term.
 
In dating, we overvalue needing someone in the current moment and this leads us to jump into relationships that aren’t suited for us. Instead, these relationships just provide comfort because those types of people would rather be in a shitty relationship than to be alone until the right one comes along.
 
In fitness, we overvalue the implications of a 25-day fad diet and its effects on us while undervaluing the long term implications this can have on our bodies.
 

An example of the fitness 10/10/10 rule 

Let’s name the person Richard. Richard wants to lose 15 pounds but is reluctant to try since he’s attempted previous times in the past and has fallen short in his efforts. Richard has hangups about going on a diet, working out, and making it mesh with his desired lifestyle and busy work schedule.
 
Richard (and many people at the beginning) have a lot of mental hangups about the gym.
 
Here’s Richard’s scenario of going to the gym:
 
1. 10 minutes from now, how will he feel? He may be in a little discomfort, fearful, and uncertain about his decision to walk into the gym. But ultimately, he will be proud of himself for arriving here because many people would have let the discomfort stop them from walking in.
 
Anytime we attempt to step outside our comfort zone in life—fear, uncertainty, and discomfort will accompany you. But, these are signals that you’re headed for growth as an individual.
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As long as you’re moving forward—you’re doing more than enough.
 
Alternatively, Richard could’ve found an excuse for not going to the gym. But, he likely would’ve had feelings of guilt accompany him for not going and this would’ve led to more self-loathing and negative talk.
 
2. How will he feel about this decision 10 months from now? He either has developed the habit of exercising and his body most likely shows it as well as his confidence and work performance.
 
Or, he’s still self-loathing, feeling stuck and covered in shame that he hasn’t made any progress and doesn’t look nor feel any better.
 
3. What about 10 years from now? He’s achieved the body he’s desired along with making his unique dent in the universe through his business since he now has more energy and confidence.
 
Or, he’s puddling in mediocrity in life and business. He’s in a unfulfilling relationship or worse, jaded that he can’t get the girl he wants for whatever reason (probably his confidence).
 
He doesn’t like his body and since he neglected to adopt a healthy lifestyle for the past decade, his quality of life is most likely lower along with him suffering from some long-term health consequences due him not taking pride enough in himself to exercise.

Closing remarks

I won’t lie, you might hate every single minute that you’re putting yourself out there and being vulnerable. You might feel utterly uncomfortable with attempting to lose weight again, pursue work, or go after a relationship that is meaningful to you.
 
But, what the hell is the alternative?
 
Mediocrity. Unfulfilling work. A lifeless relationship that drains you more than inspires you. Filled with excuses for why you can’t do something. Living vicariously through others because you didn’t choose yourself nor believe in yourself enough.
 
That sounds awful.
 
And each one of us deserves better than that. But, we must choose ourselves and step out of our comfort zone (even a tiny step works).
 
When it comes to making better decisions, remind yourself that what you do today will have consequences tomorrow (good or bad).
 
When you think of pursuing your goals, don’t just think about the doomsday scenarios, think about everything that could go right. Don’t let distorted views or others opinions stop you from pursuing goals that truly matter to you.

The Surprising Truth About Why You Won’t Accomplish Your Fitness Goals

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Maybe it’s the diet?

Maybe it’s the workout?

Perhaps, but most likely not. It’s easier to blame a particular problem for our fitness woes than to assess ourselves and take responsibility for our shortcomings.

In today’s overly saturated world of information, we have countless weight loss drugs and tv shows such as the biggest loser that promote dangerous healthy behaviors that are unsustainable for the long run.

If you ask the average person why they didn’t accomplish their particular fitness goal or what’s holding them back—they usually point to a specific tactic that’s setting them back.

If only it was that easy.

The things that hold us back not only in fitness but also with our careers and relationships are the intangibles. It’s the small things that are blatantly in front of us but they seem so obvious that we overlook them.

Whether you’re on a weight loss journey, looking to build muscle or any other type of fitness goal—make sure to address these 4 surprising but often overlooked areas that can stop you from accomplishing your fitness goals.

1. You don’t understand your needs

Entrepreneurs and small business owners wouldn’t randomly jump out of bed one morning and immediately pursue a business idea out of blind faith. The boardroom of directors doesn’t decide on budgets and actions for the next quarter through random guessing.

In each of these scenarios, there is a level of research and understanding of the market to a certain extent. While they can’t prepare for every single little thing, they can front load their work for the big issues and assess what their particular needs will be.

The same philosophy applies to your fitness. In this case, you’re the market and before you can worry about external tactics or anything else, you have to place a premium on yourself.

For some of you individuals who overextend themselves in work and in their personal lives, this means to become a little selfish for the time being.

Why be selfish?

Because you need total clarity about yourself. Before thinking about adding anything externally, you need to answer the basic questions that suit you on a daily basis.

For example, how many calories do you need to eat? To figure this out, you must look at your age, gender, the level of activity, and factor in general lifestyle factors into the situation.

After you have some of the data on yourself, now you have to figure out how to execute on the plan at hand. It’s useless to have a bunch of information and well-intentions if you don’t take action on them.

This is one example of many. You should get clear on your sleep, working out, and any other big priority in your life.

2. Record your progress

Peter Drucker is famous for saying “what gets measured gets improved.”

If you don’t know what’s working and what isn’t, how can you be your most efficient version of yourself?

In the business world, they’ll analyze marketing campaigns, manufacturing costs and many other metrics.

What does this look like in health and fitness?

For examples, healthy eating and using the power of journaling your food for increased awareness.

Why journaling your food?

Because you need to know what you’re eating, how it’s making you feel, what’s triggering you into eating not-so-good foods.

Did you happen to experience a mid-afternoon crash today at work or did you feel more lethargic than normal today? How’s your sleep going? With the journal, you’re able to get information and then measure it to see if small changes are needed.

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Don’t underestimate the power of journaling

3. You don’t have boundaries

When you haven’t truly thought about your value adding activities and your life-draining habits, you’re going to be inefficient.

Many times, people don’t fall short just because of their diet or workout plan, it’s because of their lack of boundaries.

When you have no boundaries established, the world feels as if it’s caving down and you never have enough time to do anything. You feel constantly busy with no end in sight.

A common place where this occurs is with friends and family asking you to do things for them. After a period of always being there, there’ll be this expectation that you’re always available and when you try to change your behavior with them, this can cause some friction.

Activities such as always numerous weekly happy hours are among the many potential scenarios the each of us will face.

However, when you make a list of essential and nonessential activities in your life—you’re gaining headspace.

This frees your mind and allows you to make better decisions. This most importantly, allows you to start saying “no” to things that don’t serve your vision towards a healthier you.

4. No schedule

Business owners, entrepreneurs, athletes, and many successful individuals in fitness adhere to a daily schedule.

Not because they can’t keep up with their day, but because they understand that discipline equals freedom. They established times for meetings, phone calls, strategy sessions, workouts, and other appointments. Having the discipline to schedule allows you to become more efficient and effective at everything you’re doing in life.

Blocking out times in fitness is pivotal especially if you’re a busy professional who has demanding workdays. As we all know, nutrition is critical and without planning this out, many busy professionals fall short with their fitness goals because of this.

If you have a schedule, you could plan to meal prep on Sunday and let that last you until Wednesday. Then you could have another mini-meal prep on Wednesday to finish the week out.

The more you can automate your healthy habits, the greater the chances of succeeding with your fitness goals.

If you’re looking to transform your health and body while building long-term sustainable habits, then the 30-Day Health Makeover is exactly what you’re looking for. Enrollment for classes close Saturday, January 14 at 11:59 pm.

 

3 (Underrated) Healthy Hacks That 10x My Fitness And No One Else Is Talking About

“Don’t confuse your path with your destination. Just because it’s stormy now doesn’t mean you aren’t headed for sunshine.” – Dr. Anthony Fernando

3 (Underrated) Healthy Hacks That 10x My Fitness And No One Else Is Talking About

Losing weight, building muscle, building a spaceship, starting a business, falling in love, and healthy eating are no simple feat. These can be stressful and take a toll on us. Some more than others.

For this article’s sake, let’s stick to nutrition and exercising while leaving the other topics for NASA and Alex Hitchens (one of my all-time favorite movies).

Many people fall short with their goals because they’re unable to follow through with the implemented plan. In the majority of those plans, it wasn’t the plan or a lack of ability, it was the plans faulty foundation.

When I started to take my fitness serious, I became ultra restrictive with my personal life. For a decent amount of time, this worked and I got into phenomenal shape.

But over time, the effects of having a non-existing personal life lead me to have a deep disdain for fitness. This lead me into a battle between fitness vs. my personal life (one of the main inspirations for the upcoming ‘The 30-Day Health Makeover’ course).

Far too often, we have this goal that we’re capable of achieving but always seem to fall short with it. With nutrition, it can be attempting to go cold turkey on your coke addictions. It could be attempting to exercise for 45 minutes 5x a week after you haven’t exercised in 3 months.

Great intentions and meanings are behind the goal. But, the foundation and execution required don’t match up to the existing psychology and skill set that the person is at.

In a world full of extremes and big moments garnering all the spotlight—it’s tempting to think that these cataclysmic leaps and transformations are the norm.

And that’s where the never-ending cycles of starting and then fizzling out weeks later starts.

By making small changes in our lifestyle, we increase our chances of succeeding long-term with our fitness.

Being involved with health and fitness for over ten years, when I look back at my journey—I attribute 3 key healthy hacks for my success.

1. Focus on adding healthy and positive habits into your life, not subtracting out the “bad”

For most people (including myself), it’s tough to remove things in our life once we’ve become accustomed to them. Subtracting involves changing a habit. It signals that there will be something to miss and long for.

Think about people after a breakup. Maybe they’ve been dating for seven months and then they break up. That comfort they had is gone. Saturday night activities aren’t a known fact since their partner is gone.

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The look of someone with an “unexpected Saturday night void”

Cutting out your daily three cokes leaves a void.

When there’s a void, it triggers a feeling of discomfort. At the beginning, few of us are able to handle being uncomfortable.

Attempting to avoid this emotional feeling leads to regrettable decisions (one night stands, drunk calls/texts to the ex, and substitutions of coke for something equally worse but just seen in a different light).

What’s easier, adding a salad to lunch or ditching your grande mocha frappuccino?

Adding avoids deprivation.

Instead of banning your afternoon sugar fix from ever existing, try implementing a couple portions of lean proteins and some healthy fats at lunch. That sugar fix will likely disappear because you’re supplying your body with quality nutrients.

Instead of banishing cookies for eternity, plan on eating 150-200 calories of something each day that isn’t considered healthy. Then fill the rest of the day with quality foods.

Here are a couple of ideas to start with

  • Slowly add water into your life with a reminder every hour to drink at least eight ounces
  •  Commit to exercising for 10 minutes and if you feel good, continue
  • Want to sleep earlier? Start your bedtime 30 minutes earlier for 10-14 days and then reduce by 30 more minutes after reaching the first milestone
  • Poor eating habits? Aim to make the first meal as healthy as possible, and only move on when you have consistency

2. Defaulting to every decision having the long term in mind

Playing the long term game prevents you from chasing short-term victories that are satisfying in the moment but actually distances yourself further from succeeding in the long term.

A regimented 30-day program where sugar isn’t allowed, you exercise every day for 60 minutes, and calories are super low isn’t ideal for the long term.

You’ll definitely lose some weight during those 30 days, but what happens after those 30 days. What about your metabolism? What about your habits? Have you learned what proper healthy habits are? Or have you just been a robot for 30 days and will resort back to your old habits after this period?

The long term game in fitness prioritizes longevity, quality of life, and sustainability.

An easy way to always have the long term in mind is to use these three methods.

  1.  If presented with a question or decision to make and you don’t feel an instant yes come upon you, then odds are, it’s something that you can pass on.
  2.  Ask yourself “does this action benefit me in the long run?” If not, no is the answer.
  3. Ask yourself why 3-4 times before making a decision if there is some doubt or you’re about to make an impulse decision?
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Random but gets the point across

Keep the big picture in mind and those temptations and distractions will diminish.

3. Be strict with your relationships and communication

People can either lift you up or sink you down. You’re either moving forward with your goals or you’re moving backward.

Relationships are important because you become your company (sounds cliche, but true). If you hang around broke people who see the world from a scarce point of view, odds are, you’ll see the world the same way.

If you hang around friends who have poor eating habits, then odds are, you’re going to adopt those same habits and share their mentality.

One of the first things I gather when coaching and consulting is to get an idea of the client’s environment. Are they around people who support their new goals? Or do some of the most important people in their life happen to have behaviors and habits that aren’t conducive to their new lifestyle?

It’s important to assess and be mindful of your environment. Before writing up a new diet or joining a workout program, assess your circle of influence. Is it a positive or a negative for these new goals?

If it’s a negative, seek out support and accountability to counter your circle.